Children may display different behavior patterns in school which may not be entirely visible at home. At some point, your child’s teacher or worse, the principal, may end up calling you for a one-on-one session about your child’s bad manners. Their bad attitude in school may cause problems not only with the teachers and students but the parents as well.
As a responsible parent, there are many things and techniques you can do to discipline your child the proper way. If your child’s grades are significantly down and if they start acting like a bully, then it’s high time you step into the picture. Ignoring the situation won’t make it go away. In fact, it may even worsen it.
So what can you do to help your child at school? Here are some tips on how to deal with it.
• Evaluate the situation
Make an effort to attend your child’s classes so you can quietly observe and assess the scenario. You can even volunteer for a day and offer your services as a teacher’s aide. Another option is to ask a child specialist to evaluate your child’s actions and behavior inside the classroom.
You can also assess the student-teacher interaction, study their learning and teaching styles, and decide if it is working for your child. Sometimes if the student-teacher relationship is not working, it can cause your child to become angry. The dynamics between them can affect your child’s reaction to certain things.
Observe when the students are outside the classroom and check if your child is still as abrasive as he is inside the classroom. Is he being bullied by other students or the other way around? Pay close attention to your child’s actions, emotions, and the way they interact with other students and teachers. Most likely, you’ll be able to notice a thing or two what makes them act the way they do.
• Make a plan with the teacher
Based on your observation, you should sit down and discuss this thoroughly with your child’s teacher and come up with an action plan. Your teacher may have suggestions on how they can help improve your child’s behavior and grades. If your child is always arguing with his seatmate then the teacher can move him to the other end of the room.
Take note of your kid’s behavior especially if there are any minor or significant changes in their attitude. This is why it is very important to identify the reason that is causing your child’s disruptive behavior. By knowing the cause, you and the teacher may create solutions that can effectively change and improve your child’s attitude.
• Put it into action
Once you have a concrete plan on how to deal with your child, the next step is to put it into work. This way you can test and see if your strategies are working effectively. If not, then you can devise another plan with the teacher and try a new approach. If plan A isn’t working then proceed to plan B.
Get your child involved as well. Sit down with your child and teacher and collaborate until you come up with a solution your kid is comfortable with. It can be as simple as teaching your kid to give the teacher a signal whenever they feel agitated or frustrated.
The teacher can then help address the problem. Perhaps she can assign a new activity or assignment to your kid.
• Get professional help
If you think it is necessary to help your child, ask for a recommended child therapist. Interview the possible candidate for the job. This way you can explain the details on what your child is going through.
Ask the therapist how they can help your child improve their attitude and emotions. Lay down your objective and expectations so that you are both on the same page. This way, you can also assess if the therapist’s style is a good match for your child.